Commitment Can Be a Beautiful Thing

I’ve been doing what everyone else has been doing for the last couple of weeks – rushing around frantically, trying to get “ready” for the holidays.  My boys turned 3 about a week ago, and my husband’s birthday is in early January.  I’ve also started working full-time again, after about 6 years of job sharing.  So, yes, I am busy.  And, I remind myself of that fact several times a day – sort of like a badge of honor or something.

But, for the past few days, my life has moved at a much slower pace.  I travelled to spend time with my elderly grandparents – the ones in whose home I have spent almost every Christmas since I was born.  On the way there, I was hurriedly addressing Christmas cards and making lists of what needed to be done when I got home.  And to be honest, I was sort of wishing I hadn’t committed to making the trip during such a busy time of year.  But then, I got to my grandparent’s house.  As I emerged from my holiday-stress-induced list-making haze, I took a good look around.  My grandmother’s health has been failing for a while, and my grandfather has become her full-time caregiver.  I settled in for a few days, and when I left, my holiday season - in fact my whole outlook – had changed.  I now have a new definition and illustration of the word “commitment.”  These two people speak so tenderly to each other in the face of aging bodies and sometimes flagging spirits. Each looks at the other as if the world would stop spinning if they weren’t together.  They have weathered The Great Depression and World War II as well as recession, unemployment and failing health.  But, what shines from both of their faces is hope and love.  The belief that their lives together have meant something – if only to each other.  I left that home inspired and re-committed to my life – to my family and friends, to my job and to myself.

In today’s economic climate, it might seem easier to focus on the difficult, the challenging, the unfair.  Jobs have been lost, salaries have been cut and companies have closed their doors.  For many, the job search has gone on for far too long and money is stretched thin.  These are real problems, and I know how much strength and focus is required to continually put one foot in front of the other when facing them.  But, what I would like to offer is another perspective – one that may lighten your mental load, if only for a minute or two out of the day: Commitment can be a beautiful thing. 

Making a decision and living your life around it can be very grounding and comforting; it can help sustain you through the lean times.  My grandparents’ commitment has been to each other and to their family.  But certainly, there are many different types of grounding, comforting commitment.  For me?  Well, I plan to recommit myself to excellence in my chosen field.  To living in the moment, while remembering the past and planning for the future.  To taking a deep breath before I get out of my car and go into my house at the end of the day, readjusting my attitude to one of thankfulness for what awaits me inside.  In the end, isn’t that what’s most important?  I think so.

About the Author: 

Jenny Stribling is a Senior Technical Recruiter at MATRIX Resources. She has over 12 years of experience with IT Recruiting at MATRIX including team leadership and job share roles. She works with job seekers at almost all levels and technical specializations, and believes that her success comes from the long-term relationships she builds with her candidates, clients and colleagues.

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